When I started work, I was that quiet girl in meetings. I ascribed to the saying "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt". However, I quickly realized that while no one thought I was stupid, no one thought I was brilliant either. Silence is not the path to success.
There are naturally assertive people, but if you're not one of them, I'm telling you, there is hope. You just need to be a bit of a geek, because, like any skill, it's a matter of studying the principles and then practicing. To study the principles, I've laid out my "ladder of assertiveness" so you know where you are and where you're trying to get to.
August 4 2014